Help me get rid of the spammers!
So, a while ago I had a serious problem with my Hotmail account getting hacked and sending out spam to all my contacts. I ended up closing the account, but the hackers keep getting in, and Microsoft has been zero help.
Even though I have changed my email address and my Tumblr password, the spammers are somehow accessing and posting to my blog! Grrr…
Do any of my followers know how to get rid of them?? If so, I would really appreciate your help with this annoying problem!
when were you lasted fucked? was it by your master or did he share you?
What could possibly make you think that it’s okay to ask such a question? I’m not here to provide “wank fodder” for the unwashed masses, and I’m not about to start now.
are you allowed to masturbate by your Master ?
Yes, but only with permission.
Just out of curiosity, what are your phobias or fears?
Reading about your past hard limits makes me wonder, does it scare you? Why risk your life (with breath play, for example)? Your Master is human (and to err is human), and no one can truly be an expert in any of these dangerous activities when it comes to safety.
Yes, it does sometimes scare me, but that is part of the rush. There is always the potential for permanent harm, but for me it falls into the category of “acceptable risk”. We practice R.A.C.K., which is “Risk Aware Consensual Kink”. It’s not for everyone, but it works for us.
You mention in another response that you used to have a long list of hard limits and that over the years your Master has helped you overcome most of them. Can you share what some of those hard limits were? What was the hardest to overcome?
Oh boy… It has been a while, but I will try to remember some of them…
In no particular order:
- Permanent scars
- Breath play
- Straight jackets
- Anal hooks
- Age play
This is by no means a complete list, but these are the ones I can recall at the moment. I would have to say that hoods were the hardest limit to overcome. They made me feel like I couldn’t breathe, and they instilled an instant feeling of panic. What helped the most was going slowly and being in a safe and comfortable environment. The first time I wore a hood, I just sat comfortably with no other bondage or play going on. That gave me time to adjust to the sensation and realize that I wasn’t actually in any danger of suffocating!
I have a heart of a slave and have chosen to be one for my Master. My only problem is that being a slave is something i never thought i would see myself becoming, yet my need has out weighed my mind and now need to grow into my role. Any advice on things i can do for myself in order to gain the discipline and knowledge i need to let myself go? I trust him, i trust myself, but have no idea what i am doing and i only want to please him.
"Letting go" takes time. The best thing you can do for now is to let him guide you. If he is new as well, I would suggest that he spend some time educating himself. Go to workshops and kink events, talk to people who have more experience, and do lots of reading.
Hi! In very interested in this kind on lifestyle but don't really know where I stand. Hopefully you can help me with this. My partner and I enjoy a s&m sexual relationship where I'm the submissive (I enjoy being punished and humiliated) but in our everyday life we enjoy a normal relationship. Is that normal? Does that mean I'm in a BDSM relationship? Thanks!
There are lots of people who are into S&M, but not into D/s. It’s totally normal - just a different kink. If you’re looking for labels, I would say that you are a “bottom” and (s)he is a “Top”. Beyond that, just have fun and enjoy your sexual exploration!
For sadists like your master, is it something they can separate from their public life? Or do they also feel the need to asset themselves over females (perhaps in subtle ways) in public (e.g. at work). In that vein, if children are exposed to those roles-- isn't there are concern that the takeaway message is distorted (e.g. "woman are subservient to men")?
My Master is (in general) a very gentle and kind man. He only asserts Himself over females if He senses their submissive tendencies coming out when they interact with Him. It’s like a beautiful dance that has more to do with energy exchange that it does with forcing anything.
For many who are interested in D/s or S&M, the role they adopt in their private lives is the complete opposite of their default persona. It’s about balance. In my work life (and almost everywhere else), I am a very dominant “Type A” personality. I am drawn to slavery because it allows me to give up that extreme level of control - it’s the only way I can find peace. The reverse is true for many Dominants.
Any responsible practitioner of D/s or BDSM will ensure that children are not exposed to our lifestyle choices. In our case, when His children come to visit, we modify our behaviours so that they appear totally normal to the kids, but still convey meaning to us. We don’t expose people to our lifestyle without their consent, and that includes children.
What goes through your head when you're being physically and sexually abused/tortured (with consent)? I've always been curious about this. Does your mind blank out? Do you feel yourself go outside of your body? Are you afraid? If you are in fear during those sessions, how does that compute with the trust that's supposed to be inherent with your lifestyle? Or is that fear tempered by trust? Are you elated? Is it total gratification, or some complex combination of all of the above? Thank you!
It really depends on the day. I’d have to say that the most common thing I think about is getting through the experience. We tend to play fairly hard, so I have to use a lot of skill to process the pain. It’s not as easy as just standing there and “taking it”.
Sometimes I do blank out, in a euphoric sort of way, and yes, there is the occasional time when I feel scared. However, my Master knows that I don’t respond well to fear play, so we don’t go there often. I do best when I am calm and centred, and when I know what to expect.
One of the hardest things for many slaves to overcome is the fact that the person who hurts them is the same person who loves them. It’s a process of mental evolution, I guess. Intellectually, we know that our Masters hurt us because they love us, but our emotions and our core values can sometimes tell us a different story. The challenge lies in finding a way to make your intellect and your emotions line up, and then seeing where they take you.